So Much Tragedy in the World Today

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tidoco2222

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There seems to be no end to the amount of pain and suffering in today\'s world, what with an endless amount of natural disaster and conflict and a general feeling of unease between cultures. That makes my own tragedy seem very small but still I feel the need to post something about it.
Today I watched my sister in law Erica\'s burial, she took her own life for reasons that we will never know, suffice to say that my brother Paul is devastated as are we all.
She was only 36 years old and had so much to live for, the bigest tragedy is that she left behind my 14 year old niece Laura who as you can understand very confused as to why mum is not there any more.
There is nothing more to say realy I don\'t even know realy why I am writing this it just seemed to ease the loss a little in the sharing.
 
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Modderrhu

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That has got to be one of the most difficult things to handle, the loss of a wife/mother by her own choice. Perhaps the reasons will come clear, but until then daughter and husband will always be asking why. Something they did or didn\'t do? Could they not have helped her through it, or shown understanding and support enough, whatever it was? There are less selfish ways of dealing with things. It\'s a nauseating empathy when one tries to see things from their perspective.

Your own tragedy is not small, those who lose loved ones to earthquakes and hurricanes know the reasons, and that those lost did not make that choice.

Strength to you, Tim.
 
airhead

airhead

Coffin Dodger / Keymaster
Tim,

Let me add my sorrow and sympathy to you and your family. I\'ll also add prayers that you and your family find peace in this.

Kevin
 
Dragonsreach

Dragonsreach

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Staff member
My sympathies Tim.
To lose a loved one through illness or accident is hard enough, but when it is by their own decision, the loss is terrible.
My thoughts go out to you and most especially to your niece at this time.
 
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Skrit

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Hello Tim,

I\'m saddened to hear this. I was going to write a whole story but the words just won\'t come out...

So now I can only say that my thoughts are with you and that I hope your brother and niece will somehow be allright. That goes for you and yours too ofcourse!

Whenever you want to talk about it with me than go ahead!

Tim.
 
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bayrodney

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I feel your pain Tim, A friend of my families daughter took her own life aswell about a month ago. i add my sympathy to your suffering.

I also agree with you on the topic of there being so much pain in the worl

:(
 
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Ritual

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Suicide is difficult to cope with. One of my relatives committed suicide when I was a kid and I don\'t think any member of my family has ever truly understood his decision. I\'m sorry for you Tim (and for your brother and niece, needless to say)! :(
 
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finn17

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That\'s a bugger!

Possibly nothing harder to deal with....

I work with a local organisation called Penhaligons Friends

http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/index.html

There might be something useful there, you never know.

My thoughts are with you Tim.
 
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Griffo

Member
I notice that you are totally composed and strong, I admire that you are in this situation, it takes real strength.

I am only 15, and I think that your niece will be able to understand her loss, and be able to appreciate the pain that you are all experiencing. All there is to do is to help each other through the tragedy with strength...
 
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MarkusTay

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Tim,

I\'m sorry to hear about your loss as well. My wife\'s sister-in-law died a month ago from cancer and she was only 36, leaving behind two very confused little girls. It hurts to lose a loved one, but I know it is so much worse when that person dies by their own hand. Years ago I had a partner, and his sister comitted suicide. Her own children found her in the garage... no-one could ever understand why. Just keep reminding your brother and neice that it wasn\'t their fault, because there is a great deal of emotional scarring right now.

You take care of yourself - Mark
 
ipaintminis

ipaintminis

Active member
Wow, tim there arnt even words to express.

as for your niece. That has to be one of the worst things to happen. expecailly for you because all you can do is be there for the family. I know a girl, my age, who went through the same ordeal at 15, she said the one thing that got her through it was having family and good friends there for her.

I will keep you all in my prayers.
 
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RedDawn

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Tim,

I\'m so sorry for your loss. I know it won\'t mean much, but having had suicidal thoughts my entire life I can truly say that sometimes there is nothing anyone else can do. Those thoughts are all-engrossing and suck a person\'s mind to the bottom of a whirlpool. How I managed to make it through I will never know.

I wish I could give you words of wisdom, but all I can think of is to simply be there for your family, love them, and show them that love.

May peace be with you all, if not now, then hopefully later.

P.S. Grumb and I are going to a funeral today for a friend who was in a car accident and not wearing his seat belt. His son and ours went through chemo together. It\'s a sad day today.
 
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albufas

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all my feelings are with you my friend, i wish the best for your family and a fast recover from that shock :( , if you need someone to talk with you know where to find me my friend.
 
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Brokenblade

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I\'m not really sure what to say, it is such a sad situation, especially for your brother and niece. i suppose being suppostive for them is the most important thing at the moment, being confused and shocked im guessing they will be looking on someone to lean on, i wish you and your family my deepest condolences and sympathies :(
 
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