I said I wasn't going to jump in on this But..
I can't fucking believe what I just read. You'd rather have women defend themselves then educate men the rape is a criminal act. If you can't see that fucking attitude is part of the problem then you are as guilty of the "ownership" mentality over women that is an inherent cause of rape.
And it's an indication of how angry that made me that for the first time in more than fifteen years on this forum I've sworn in print!
@ Dragonsreach
So much for keeping it civil and polite...so sad...
Yes I would rather have women
BE ABLE TO DEFEND THEMSELVES. Do you know why? Because you're not gonna educate everyone, and you cannot control the free will of an individual to commit evil acts. If you as a man need to be educated that raping a woman is a crime, then you have more serious underlying issues. I guess it's not common sense that you can't force yourself upon a woman...but hey that's what happens when you advocate a secular society... no fear of consequences, everything goes...
If you want to treat women like victims before the fact, by all means, go ahead... don't expect me to. I'm not blaming the victim, or telling them it's their actions that cause them to get raped... that's ignorant... I guess you think telling a woman to not walk by herself to her car in a dark parking lot at night is akin to blaming her of rape or robbery as well... Since when is taking precautions tantamount to blaming the victim? If that's the case we shouldn't wear seat belts, buy insurance, or lock our doors at night... because, by your logic, taking these precautions effectually labels and blames us as "the victim."
No amount of "education" is going to prevent some psycho from doing what they're determined to do... better to prepare for it in case it does happen, that way you can stop it. You can't wish evil away, you can't legislate it away, and you can't ignore it; you stand up to it and you fight it...
I fail to see how that is effectually blaming the victim...
And I'm only going to say this once... do not accuse me of being some domineering, misogynist that thinks a woman is owned property. If you can't make your case without resorting to personal attacks, especially when you don't know
ANYTHING about me, you've already lost the argument.
@AndyG
I'm sure we all agree that rape is inherently evil and
NEVER justifiable...that should go without saying...
@Bailey03
I'm not blaming the victim, nor am I saying men should not control themselves...In fact a man that commits rape is not a man at all, but more akin to an animal. My argument is this... why would you not take proactive steps to prevent something from happening to you that someone else may do when there's a risk that it can happen? I mean David come on... if, God forbid, your wife were attacked, you wouldn't want her to be able to defend herself? How is that saying it's her fault? You cannot control the actions or intent of another person, but you can protect yourself.
Maybe it's just me, but doing what I do, I'm not gonna tell someone they're being a victim if they take precautions to prevent some evil thing from happening. Obviously exigent circumstances apply where preparations fail, but why would you not plan for the worst? And just remember, whatever the crime may be, the police aren't gonna be there at exactly the moment you need them...police actions are reactionary, and sometimes you in fact are responsible for your own safety and life (again, regardless of the crime). Yes, there is an expectation that
everyone should live with each other civilly, but come on, we don't live in a utopia... evil exists and not everyone lives responsible lives.