I agree that you should try to learn the language of the country you live in, but things are never easy when you move abroad.
Even moving from Sweden to England proved to be quite hard in language and culture shock terms. I really didn\'t expect that. I thought that it would be a piece of cake understanding people and customs, explaining myself, ordering food, going to the bank, getting a doctor, dentist, whatever....but it wasn\'t.
Even though I consider my english to be good (we learn it in school at age 9-10 in Sweden, and have subtitles on everything, plus I\'ve studied english literature at uni), I wasn\'t prepared for the diffrence between TV/school/music/popculture and the reality of diffrent dialects, accents, sociolects etc. Or the fact that people didn\'t understand me, which can easily lead to a negative spiral where you speak less and less to not embarass yourself.
Not to mention attitudes. Of course, being a white, middleclass, Swedish woman, most people are (sometimes too) nice to me, but that\'s just me being lucky. If you are met by an arrogant, ignorant or just plain rude attitude when trying to speak another language it makes it a hell of a lot worse.
Unfortunately people judge other people way too quickly (just becasue you can hardly say something doesn\'t mean you\'re not trying), and learning new languages is actually really difficult. It doesn\'t come overnight, especially when you\'re adult. Adding in other issues like war trauma, being forced to flee, or just the stress of culture shocks that go way past my confusion at the local supermarket/pub/in general, I can easily understand why some people go for the comfort of their own culture and language.
I know I hung out with mostly swedes and other scandinavians in the beginning over here. Luckily, like I said, Scandinavian people are well met almost everywhere in the western world. But I still feel the huge difference between speaking in my own language, where I can be ME, and speaking english (which I love to do, I did study linguistics after all).
I also had the benefit of freely going to another country to work, I wasn\'t dragged along by someone, or being forced there. (Or just trying my luck at a better life becasue I\'ve heard so many great things about England/USA/any other western country which might prove to be completely false once you actually make it there).
And this is not to excuse people who truly want to destroy the society to which they have come, it\'s just my experiences as a Swede living in a foreign country since 3 years.
Shit, that\'s the longest post I\'ve ever made!