I\'m packing up the paints....

[cassar]

i had 20 years worth of intense stressfull work, its not worth your health remember work to live, not live to work. i was lucky im retired now and still a young man my only regret is the time lost i missed watching my son grow up, im not making the same mistake with my daughter, family first missus

 

[evil tendencies]

Originally posted by mud duck
Are the rents in Cali really that bad...?

Usually, yes. We moved out of Orange County to the central valley, and are playing less for our house here than we were for our tiny apartment.

Good luck Liz. Don\'t forget to keep perspective; things won\'t always suck.

 

[Shawn R. L.]

Might not give up painting all together. Painting is one of my \'happy places.\'

 

[generulpoleaxe]

Originally posted by Dragonsreach

Originally posted by BarstoolProphet
Aren\'t hours like that illegal?

Not in the USA.

European working hours legislation hasn\'t been signed up to by the UK, so technically it\'s possible here.

and even when it is forced upon us you can still do crazy hours if you are self employed

 

[freakinacage]

try working for the nhs. plenty of crazy hours there

 

[tooshy]

Am I missing something here ??? If you jointly own the house with your ex - and he can\'t buy you out, then you SELL THE DAMN HOUSE! You both split the profit and go your separate ways - job done.

You are entitled to your share and shouldn\'t need to work those kind of hours.

 

[wiccanpony]

Originally posted by tooshy
Am I missing something here ??? If you jointly own the house with your ex - and he can\'t buy you out, then you SELL THE DAMN HOUSE! You both split the profit and go your separate ways - job done.

You are entitled to your share and shouldn\'t need to work those kind of hours.

it gets complicated when the ex drags he’s heels on selling..... a jointly owned house needs both signatures to put it on the market.

When one won’t play ball, you’re forced to get a lawyer to drag a Judge into it........ more time and money and grief.:flame:

 

[Dragon Forge Design]

Originally posted by wiccanpony

Originally posted by tooshy
Am I missing something here ??? If you jointly own the house with your ex - and he can\'t buy you out, then you SELL THE DAMN HOUSE! You both split the profit and go your separate ways - job done.

You are entitled to your share and shouldn\'t need to work those kind of hours.

it gets complicated when the ex drags he’s heels on selling..... a jointly owned house needs both signatures to put it on the market.

When one won’t play ball, you’re forced to get a lawyer to drag a Judge into it........ more time and money and grief.:flame:

Add to that a totally shit housing market where its not uncommon right now for houses to sell for less than the mortgage on them..

Every time I read this thread title I see \"I\'m packing up the pants\" I think Oh dear Liz has no pants...

 

[lizcam]

No pants!

Yup. Even before stuff like lawyers and all that our mortgage is just barely what the house is worth. Thank god we didn\'t re-mortgage at one of those rediculous rates when the house was worth about twice what it would sell for now. But if we dragged in lawers and court we\'d end up further in debt and it\'s really not worth that and the time it would take. It\'s been a year now and he shows no signs of letting up and I just want it over.

Actually, if I had a couple of bucks right now it would be really easy to get a condo for about 30 grand. 3 bedroom. Those were going for around 150 grand a year and a half ago. It would be cheaper than getting an apartment right now. But I don\'t plan on staying in California any longer than I have to so buying doesn\'t make any sense. Alot will change when this divorce is over. We\'ll see how it works out.

Actually I seem to have given the wrong impression about some things. I AM frustrated about the time this is all taking and the fact that the ex doesn\'t seem to want to call it quits. I\'m frustrated that I can\'t just get on with life.

But I\'m happier than I have been in years. My time is my own and I don\'t have to worry about how what I\'m doing or saying will come back to bite me later. If I want to work insane hours I can and it affects no one but myself. Now if I want to see a movie I can see what I want instead of what he wants. I didn\'t realize how little I had to do with the small choices in my life before.

Don\'t get me wrong. I\'m not really blaming him. I CHOSE to allow him to be the dominate one. I could have put up a fight now and then. He has fault in all this but so do I and I have no issues saying I do. I hate comflict and LOVE helping people. A bad combination. Thank god Roger doesn\'t take advantage of it.

Anyway, thanks guys. As always you are a great support. I\'ll get back to my paints (and pants) soon.

 

[wiccanpony]

:twisted: take ubies pants lol