Rant! Women vs. My minis
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You are all still in nappies (diapers for the Americans!)
And just for the record 49 and married for 25 years to a non-player/painter.
And just for the record 49 and married for 25 years to a non-player/painter.
Brother Tom
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Im sure this discussion of age popped up in another recent thread.
i really, REALLY envy people who share the hobby with each other.
i know a few people who are into painting and gaming and who introduced their partners into the matter of little plastic figures for $20.
some paint together, give advice to each other and paint minis as presents.
a few months (or years) ago when i stopped painting to become a \"pro\" in warcraft 3 i got to know a few boys with theirs girls almost playing better than tehselfs.
damn what envy i felt
truth is in my \"gf phases\" i mostly stop painting/gaming for a few month so i never had an argument about spending too much time on the hobby but, of course, i basically understand the problem of spending not enought with your partner.
im not an expert and i dont know what is better, both beeing involved in the hobby or only one but you stop painting would be a complete waste of skill
but keep in mind, if the relationship wouldnt break because of \"your minis\" it might as well be any other reason like spening too much time with your friends, acting \"strange\", the \"doesnt work that way\" or the typical reasons
if her mind is made up the \"why\" doenst really matter anymore.
keep ya head up and paitn in pride!
i know a few people who are into painting and gaming and who introduced their partners into the matter of little plastic figures for $20.
some paint together, give advice to each other and paint minis as presents.
a few months (or years) ago when i stopped painting to become a \"pro\" in warcraft 3 i got to know a few boys with theirs girls almost playing better than tehselfs.
damn what envy i felt
truth is in my \"gf phases\" i mostly stop painting/gaming for a few month so i never had an argument about spending too much time on the hobby but, of course, i basically understand the problem of spending not enought with your partner.
im not an expert and i dont know what is better, both beeing involved in the hobby or only one but you stop painting would be a complete waste of skill
but keep in mind, if the relationship wouldnt break because of \"your minis\" it might as well be any other reason like spening too much time with your friends, acting \"strange\", the \"doesnt work that way\" or the typical reasons
if her mind is made up the \"why\" doenst really matter anymore.
keep ya head up and paitn in pride!
And to think that I\'m looking up at him from further down the wrong side of the hill
Okay, for the record: 50+ and formerly married to a non-artist/ non-player/ non-painter who, never-the-less, helped organize the only two shows of my work that ever occurred - at the college I left \"sans degree\" no less
I come at it from the opposite direction, so I guess I have an easier time of it. My husband doesn\'t try to change me, but then I don\'t try to change him either. Most guys I ever dated were gamers anyway, so they thought it was kind of cool... I could get away with that because of the disparity between men and women in gaming, most of the guys I ended up dating were gamers, but there\'s not enough women in the hobby for every guy to date a gaming chick. All I can say is, if she\'s trying to change you, tell her to F--- off and find someone better. Even if you don\'t find a partner who games, you deserve one that will respect that your hobbies mean something to you even if they don\'t understand them.
--Katie G.
--Katie G.
OK, if DR and Dauber are at the bottom of that hill, I\'m rapidly rolling down toward them.
@EricJ - as someone who has a master\'s degree in art and has worked for an insurance company for 10 years, I have to wonder just what your girlfriend thinks you should do with your talent instead. ???
No one should ever belittle you for what you enjoy, no matter how odd it may seem to them.
@EricJ - as someone who has a master\'s degree in art and has worked for an insurance company for 10 years, I have to wonder just what your girlfriend thinks you should do with your talent instead. ???
No one should ever belittle you for what you enjoy, no matter how odd it may seem to them.
Heh, thanks. I get enough of that attitude that my painting miniatures is a \"childish\" hobby from my father, I don\'t need it from my SO too. And, honestly, its about respect. If I respect someone, I should encourage them (unless I think they\'re doing something harmful, but, really, is mini-painting harmful? Would you rather your SO was out at the bar drinking or something?) in their hobbies, not disparage them.
--Katie G.
well hey, if she likes you and you like her what are you squealing about. wait until you gett married........thats when the real arguments start lol. My wife is an artist just like me (she\'s a photographer, i\'m a painter) we couldn\'t be any closer yet are so far apart. There are some things we all accept are never going to change,.....and some that will evolve into others. I paint minis as a hobby, i used to play the games but wasn\'t able to justify being out a whole night and leave the missus at home with the ankle biter. so i started painting minis(because i couldn\'t find the room to do the epic canvasses i did at art school) in my spare time (not friday nights or cuddling time) i paint. my wife accepts it because she has realised that i\'m not going to sit there and paint when my daughter is wailing the house down or the dinner needs cooking. but i will paint when she has gone to sleep and all my chores are over.
gasp........it seems buddy that she feels that you spend too much time with the dark maiden and not enough with her. for a while try to not be seen painting the buggers and make an effort to be with her when you would be painting. you would be surprised how she starts to come around when she has time to explore your hobby casually and not have to nag you away from it.
. My wife is an artist just like me (she\'s a photographer, i\'m a painter) we couldn\'t be any closer yet are so far apart. There are some things we all accept are never going to change,.....and some that will evolve into others. I paint minis as a hobby, i used to play the games but wasn\'t able to justify being out a whole night and leave the missus at home with the ankle biter. so i started painting minis(because i couldn\'t find the room to do the epic canvasses i did at art school) in my spare time (not friday nights or cuddling time) i paint. my wife accepts it because she has realised that i\'m not going to sit there and paint when my daughter is wailing the house down or the dinner needs cooking. but i will paint when she has gone to sleep and all my chores are over.gasp........it seems buddy that she feels that you spend too much time with the dark maiden and not enough with her. for a while try to not be seen painting the buggers and make an effort to be with her when you would be painting. you would be surprised how she starts to come around when she has time to explore your hobby casually and not have to nag you away from it.
Yeah, that\'s basically what happened, well at least the first part, we\'ll see about the \"finding someone better\" part. I think it\'s a good thing, and at the very least I have some additional free time now to spend on my ogre.
Oddly enough I think a lot of it had to do with that darn Dark Maiden, the time I spent on it. Oh well, I\'m more and more in the mindset it was a good thing the way it all turned out.
Ok, Gypsy, I think your avatar threw me off, I always think people are the gender of their avatar. Zora always throws me off also!
-Eric
lollollol
Well I have to admit, if nothing else this thread has cheered me up. Thanks for your fun at my expense frenchkid!
I don\'t know Gypsy, every time I think about you, it\'s still the avatar, it\'s still creepy! I don\'t know if there is any coming back from that...
Yeah, I think it all probably has to do with the \"trying to change me\" thing more than really the mini thing for the most part. Just the minis seem to tend to be the first targeted.
Well I have to admit, if nothing else this thread has cheered me up. Thanks for your fun at my expense frenchkid!
I don\'t know Gypsy, every time I think about you, it\'s still the avatar, it\'s still creepy!
I don\'t know if there is any coming back from that...Yeah, I think it all probably has to do with the \"trying to change me\" thing more than really the mini thing for the most part. Just the minis seem to tend to be the first targeted.
