The Great Love Chase!
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Two words, Alex...Move on.
You will do yourself no favors by trying to change who you are for her.
Most likely you will end up resenting her.
Be happy for her... but be assured there will be other women and better women.
I spent half my life comparing other women to the \"one that got away\" and none made the cut until I met my current girlfriend...and guess what?
She is 1000X better than the one that got away.
What you think is the best is only the best until you meet better...then the best becomes trivial.
Good Luck
You will do yourself no favors by trying to change who you are for her.
Most likely you will end up resenting her.
Be happy for her... but be assured there will be other women and better women.
I spent half my life comparing other women to the \"one that got away\" and none made the cut until I met my current girlfriend...and guess what?
She is 1000X better than the one that got away.
What you think is the best is only the best until you meet better...then the best becomes trivial.
Good Luck
Yeah me too...
Not that I thought you\'d get her back, but us Aussies always like to back the underdog (like the US in Iraq for instance:flip: ).
Move on I say, from someone who didn\'t, and spent years (like about seven) chasing and finally catching \'the one\', and regreting it ever since (I think it lasted a solid week
)Gut-wrenching & Heart-rending...
I\'m so sorry for you that it didn\'t work out, but, as many others have said, at least you found out and now, hopefully, you can move on from there.
And it WAS a gorgeuos weekend. I\'m upstate from NYC, but the weather was beautiful. In fact, yesterday was even nicer up here. It actually got to 79!!!! Just to put that in perspective for some of you, a week ago we had snow!
I\'m so sorry for you that it didn\'t work out
, but, as many others have said, at least you found out and now, hopefully, you can move on from there.And it WAS a gorgeuos weekend. I\'m upstate from NYC, but the weather was beautiful. In fact, yesterday was even nicer up here. It actually got to 79!!!! Just to put that in perspective for some of you, a week ago we had snow!
TwelveMilesOut
New member
Wow. Man, that sucks. For the rest of the day, the glass is officially half empty.
There may be a small upside, however. I recently went through a crushing divorce... the kind you see in movies where the guy ends up decimated, alone and unemployed.
When I\'d recovered emotionally to the point that I could consider trying to move on I discovered that I had gained Jilt Power. Now, no woman was unapproachable. The most humiliating crash and burn in a bar would have been a cakewalk next to what I had already been through. Even better, with this apathy-born confidence, the crashes never came. I was that \"sensitive guy that just needs a little kindness\".
So take some time. You\'re probably not ready yet (I sure as hell wouldn\'t be), but when you are ready, you may be able to harness your own Jilt Power. Yours even comes with a better story!
Good luck, Alex.
There may be a small upside, however. I recently went through a crushing divorce... the kind you see in movies where the guy ends up decimated, alone and unemployed.
When I\'d recovered emotionally to the point that I could consider trying to move on I discovered that I had gained Jilt Power. Now, no woman was unapproachable. The most humiliating crash and burn in a bar would have been a cakewalk next to what I had already been through. Even better, with this apathy-born confidence, the crashes never came. I was that \"sensitive guy that just needs a little kindness\".
So take some time. You\'re probably not ready yet (I sure as hell wouldn\'t be), but when you are ready, you may be able to harness your own Jilt Power. Yours even comes with a better story!
Good luck, Alex.
Sand Rat
New member
Wow. Condolences there man. But like the other old timers who\'ve been burned a couple of times I also through my voice behind the Move on Group - I spent about a year in the dumps when my 1st marriage broke up - and can truely say now that the time was wasted. I wouldn\'t try to change for her either - she thinks that the guy she is with is the one for her, and you changing is not going to change her feelings, regaurdless of Hollyweirds interpretations of that.
wiccanpony
Official Freak Bar Witch
I\'m so sorry, it didn\'t work the way you wanted
:flame: Damn! damn! damn!! I so wanted a happy ending.
OK ..as someone who is “Old” enough to be your Mom, Alex, I will allow a week of feeling sorry for yourself, then back to the drawing board and if not this girl, then there is the other some odd billion women walking the planet to look over.
:flame: Damn! damn! damn!! I so wanted a happy ending.
OK ..as someone who is “Old” enough to be your Mom, Alex, I will allow a week of feeling sorry for yourself, then back to the drawing board and if not this girl, then there is the other some odd billion women walking the planet to look over.
airhead
Coffin Dodger / Keymaster
Man, my post sounded bitter. May be some malace harbored for some of my old gf\'s in there somewhere. But what this \"lady\" did was cruel & unusual and probably against a few conventions.
Dude, you gotta move on. Take a week, mope, sulk, fume, maybe break something (not very valuable - she\'s not worth it.). Get the greenstuff and bandaids out and put your heart back together. Then come back here and re-read these posts. There is some good advice here.
Dude, you gotta move on. Take a week, mope, sulk, fume, maybe break something (not very valuable - she\'s not worth it.). Get the greenstuff and bandaids out and put your heart back together. Then come back here and re-read these posts. There is some good advice here.
Theres no time for worrying about the love of my life right now, I\'ve got to paint my Sister Christina for the CMON contest!
No, thankyou everyone for your support, there appears to have been a huge wave of people over the boards following this story for some unknown reason!
Well I dunno, tune in for next weeks episode where Alex goes out to drown himself and his sorrows in beer and women!
Alexxx
!No, thankyou everyone for your support, there appears to have been a huge wave of people over the boards following this story for some unknown reason!
Well I dunno, tune in for next weeks episode where Alex goes out to drown himself and his sorrows in beer and women!
Alexxx
wiccanpony
Official Freak Bar Witch
hummm...let me give this some thought
could it be??? that we\'re a thirsty and horny group....running away BAhahahahahahah snort giggle..lol
Originally posted by AlexDaKid
Why does talk of ale and whores appear on all my threads?!
could it be??? that we\'re a thirsty and horny group....running away BAhahahahahahah snort giggle..lol
tooshy
Active member
Life\'s a bitch.....
Alex, to quote a very old saying \"Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all...\"
I too wasted years (10 to be horribly honest ) and really regret it. If I could have those years back again, I\'d stick two fingers up to the protagonist and get on with things. Looking back - he actually wasn\'t worth it
Spring is in the air, with lots of new promises. Enjoy!
Alex, to quote a very old saying \"Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all...\"
I too wasted years (10 to be horribly honest
) and really regret it. If I could have those years back again, I\'d stick two fingers up to the protagonist and get on with things. Looking back - he actually wasn\'t worth it Spring is in the air, with lots of new promises. Enjoy!
Put her behind you....
..and do not go to her wedding. It will just be another negative memory for you to file.
I know nothing about your situation, but it sounds to me like this girl is on a power trip. What normal person would want a besotted ex-lover to give them away at their wedding....? Perhaps she\'d also like you both to fight over her at the reception?
Give her away...Yeah! But do it right now
..and do not go to her wedding. It will just be another negative memory for you to file.
I know nothing about your situation, but it sounds to me like this girl is on a power trip. What normal person would want a besotted ex-lover to give them away at their wedding....? Perhaps she\'d also like you both to fight over her at the reception?
Give her away...Yeah! But do it right now
luckycharms
Member
Well AlexDaKid, I certainly feel for you. I came home on leave and asked my sweetheart of 6 years to marry me. Well she chose that oppurtune moment to tell me she wanted to see other people. Talk about an akward moment, me there on my knee with the ring in my hand. Oh well. I tried and tried to do what I could to make things work out, well they never did. But live and learn.
To paraphrase Don Johnson as Marlboro Man in Harley Davidson And The Marlboro Man. There are two things my daddy told me never to chase. That\'s women and buses. You always get left behind.
I certainly wont tell you what to do. But I think that your energy and time would be better spent pursuing other avenues and oppurtunities.
But whatever you should choose to do, good luck to you.
To paraphrase Don Johnson as Marlboro Man in Harley Davidson And The Marlboro Man. There are two things my daddy told me never to chase. That\'s women and buses. You always get left behind.
I certainly wont tell you what to do. But I think that your energy and time would be better spent pursuing other avenues and oppurtunities.
But whatever you should choose to do, good luck to you.
Cerridwyn1st
New member
Go then - but take a date.
Alex, do yourself a favor and give up. Instead of spending the next year trying to become someone she\'ll fall for, find a nice girl and take her with you to Las Vegas. That way, at least it won\'t be a total bummer.
Nothing is sadder and more frustrating to a woman than a guy who just doesn\'t get it. She doesn\'t love you. Nothing you do will change that. While you are mooning over someone who will NEVER come around, you could be looking for someone who will think you are the world on a plate.
Alex, do yourself a favor and give up. Instead of spending the next year trying to become someone she\'ll fall for, find a nice girl and take her with you to Las Vegas. That way, at least it won\'t be a total bummer.
Nothing is sadder and more frustrating to a woman than a guy who just doesn\'t get it. She doesn\'t love you. Nothing you do will change that. While you are mooning over someone who will NEVER come around, you could be looking for someone who will think you are the world on a plate.
