When is it called home?

Ebonbuddha

Active member
One of many idiotic rumours about me has resurfaced here in Korea. Yes, I have quite a few. Anyway, if I say I like Canada or that my home is Canada I always get, ¡°You aren¡¯t Canadian¡±. Saturday things came to a head when a guy who I thought was my friend went off on me because I was ¡®dishonest¡¯. It seems I can¡¯t call Canada home because (1) I am American and (2) I haven¡¯t lived there long enough. All I can say is I am American. No he isn¡¯t Canadian, he is Australian. But it really bothers him that I call it home.
The funny part is I only here it from people here in Korea. If I was in BC, I moved to Canada. It¡¯s my new home, no one says a thing. All I ever heard is ¡°Great! Welcome to Canada¡±.
It really doesn¡¯t matter what the jacka$$ says. It is home for me and my wife (Canadian).
When can you call some place home?
 

Einion

New member
I think honestly one should only call a place home if you live there now or lived there for a decent spell before. If there\'s someplace that you feel a strong connection to that doesn\'t fit either of those two categories you can just sidestep any criticism and simply call it your spiritual home.

Einion
 

ScottRadom

Shogun of Saskatchewan
Home is where you hang your heart.

If it feels like home then you\'re home. If someone asks \"where are you from\" maybe that\'s different. If you live in Korea but wish you were back in God\'s Country then that makes Canada your home.

Everyone should feel that way about their home, good for you!
 
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I agree with Scott on this one. Home is definitely where the heart is. If you feel most comfortable in Canada and like being there most, then thats what you should call home.

It also seems thats your friend is making too big of a deal of the whole issue. Sure, you havn\'t lived in Canada for that long, but if that\'s where you feel most comfortable then go ahead and call it home. I don\'t think your honesty should be questioned over something that seems like a trivial issue.
 

ScottRadom

Shogun of Saskatchewan
Is your friend Canadian? I\'m betting not, as any Candian I know is ALWAYS glad to hear someone being proud of our great nation. We\'re pretty welcoming in general I\'ve found. I\'m first generation Canadian and my Dad (from Berlin) and his parents (My Opa came to Canada as a POW) fell in love and called Canada their home from day one. Never had any Canadian look at them speaking in their thick accents and funny clothes and give them anything other than warm welcomes and nods of approval.
 

hestan101

New member
well, i know this will sound rascist, but i really dont mean it to, but i just cant seem to stand being in countries that arent britain too long, which is why ill probably never leave. Home is the place you want to be, not nessecarily wher you are
 

ScottRadom

Shogun of Saskatchewan
Originally posted by hestan101
well, i know this will sound rascist, but i really dont mean it to, but i just cant seem to stand being in countries that arent britain too long, which is why ill probably never leave. Home is the place you want to be, not nessecarily wher you are

That doesn\'t make you sound racsist Hestan, just ignorant.lol
 

Amazon warrior

New member
Having lived in a few different countries, I found that for me there\'s no *perfect* place, just places that\'re more comfortable than others or that suit you better than other places have. I think I preferred Japan to Germany, for example, and I\'d take Australia over both, for a whole slew of complicated reasons that pertain only to me and my circumstances at the time. The only reaon I feel any pressure to return to the UK is because my SO and my family live there. Otherwise, I probably wouldn\'t be bothered.
 

hestan101

New member
Originally posted by ScottRadom
Originally posted by hestan101
well, i know this will sound rascist, but i really dont mean it to, but i just cant seem to stand being in countries that arent britain too long, which is why ill probably never leave. Home is the place you want to be, not nessecarily wher you are

That doesn\'t make you sound racsist Hestan, just ignorant.lol

no, no its not like that:(
i dont know why, its not something im proud of, it just dont seem to like the atmosphere
i know it sounds limited and biggoted but im really not
 

supervike

Super Moderator
I hear what you are saying hestan101.

Basically you are just saying you are most comfortable in your home country. Nothing wrong with that.


I\'ve never even been to another country, so I can\'t really comment.

I\'ve lived in Iowa my whole life, and in a 40 mile radius of where I am now.

I doubt any other place on the planet would feel more \'homey\' to me.

A note on Canada....Judging from what I know of Canadians, online or otherwise, I always felt Canada would be a great place to live.
 

ScottRadom

Shogun of Saskatchewan
Hestan- Just joking! I understand the heartfelt sense of love and pride for your home. I live in Canada (really!) and it\'s a BIG damn place. I don\'t think many europeans could quite get a grasp on the scale of our nation. I think Germany can be folded up like 7 times into my province alone or something ridiculous like that. So given that we\'re a diverse band of people given that the geography and climate varies wildly from on coast to the next. I\'ve lived in other parts of Canada, Born out west, lived in Edmonton for a few wild years, and made it back to Saskatoon, smack dab in the flattest place ever. I love it, and not only do I love my country but I love where I live. Any place else I visit that\'s more than about 6hrs drive from here just doesn\'t \"Feel\" right. SO I get what you\'re saying.

I know I live in the greatest Country on Earth. And i was able to come to this conclusion entirely based out of ignorance as I have never been anywhere to far from here. Except on the road to Disneyland.
 

matty1001

New member
Yet whenever I am out of England I feel much more comfortable. I guess I am just sick of the familiarity.

I guess I haven\'t found home yet. Just a few houses.

Peace and love...
 
In the immortal words of Dolly Parton..\"Home is where I hang my hair\"

I think unless you change your citizenship then you indeed are an American. As you are living in Canada then you are an American living in Canada.. But \"Home\" can be anywhere you damn well please it is.
 

Dragonsreach

Super Moderator
Staff member
Proud to say my birthplace is Newcastle-upon-Tyne.
Been to Canada and would be proud to call that country, its clean cities and friendly people home, if I decided to migrate there.
I live in and call Bolton my \"Home\" because that is where I\'ve made it.

The politics of where you were born is rubbish, Nations have decided arbitary borders based on whatever or whoever held the most strength at some time. You and You alone decide where You feel most at Home.
So stuff anyone else telling YOU where you belong.
 

Ebonbuddha

Active member
Thanks for the input. I don¡¯t know. The funny part is most of my critics were from the east coast (Ottawa, Ontario, Newfoundland). I was surprised because as ScottRandom said, I never got this treatment from people who lived in the country. I never knew this guy felt this way. He use to tell me that he hoped I got to go home and be happy. Then this came out.

Maybe it¡¯s because his marriage first marriage was a disaster and the girl he liked dated him all of three days and bolted. Maybe he sees something that makes me happy and can¡¯t stand it.
 

No Such Agency

New member
Originally posted by supervike
I\'ve lived in Iowa my whole life, and in a 40 mile radius of where I am now.
\"I\'m from Iowa. I just work in outer space.\"

:D

EB, I\'m always sorry to hear about Canadians being jackasses. I\'m relieved to hear the worst offender is not, though I\'m not glad to hear your \"friend\" is apparently being a dick for no obvious reason.

Supposedly \"down east\" in the Maritimes or Nfld, you could move into a town as a young man, and in your old age the other citizens would still be calling you \"the new feller\" or \"that guy from Ontario\". I assume this is not the case now that everyone has satellite dishes and their kids go all across the country for school.
 

boristfrog

New member
Some places you live never feel like Home, they feel transitory. Home is a place with an emotional and spiritual pull, where you know you are welcome. This place can change over time, in the same way people change over time. Often you carry Home with you.

For me, Home is where Jason is, as long as I\'m there with him or can get back to him.
 
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