bit of a problem, need help

Mourner

New member
okay, first of all, this problem isn\'t mini related, but i didn\'t know where else to post it, this is one of the best Forums i\'ve found, and i\'ve seen people discuss all sorts of things...

so, here goes:

i met a girl a couple of weeks ago, and she blew my mind....
I\'ve been talking to here a lot this last week. the trouble is, frankly, she scares me....
the two of us are EXACTLY alike. we like ALL the same things, can finish each other\'s sentences etcetera.

the problem there is that i\'ve come to like her a lot, and have come to value her friendship. but i still have feelings for her, and i\'m worried that pursueing a relationship with her might ruin our friendship in the end, something i really would\'nt want.
A relationship in itself would be great, i just don\'t know if it\'s worth our friendship.
(that said, i know she has a girlfriend at the moment (she\'s a bisexual, :) ) but i don\'t know if she\'d be into me if she didn\'t)

so, my question is, has anyone ever had something like this, and what should i do.
 

freakinacage

Well-known member
thirded. act on it early before you get into that \'friend zone\' too much

had it happen with a couple of friends and we are fine
 

Mourner

New member
wow, thanks for the fast reply guys, and the advice...

now i\'ll just have to get rid of her girlfriend (good thing she\'s having second thoughts about that relationship...:twisted: )
just looking for a more gentle way...
 

freakinacage

Well-known member
Originally posted by Mourner
wow, thanks for the fast reply guys, and the advice...

now i\'ll just have to get rid of her girlfriend (good thing she\'s having second thoughts about that relationship...:twisted: )
just looking for a more gentle way...

hang on so she\'s in a relationship already?

if so, don\'t play your hand too soon. done that too
 

darklord

New member
my old mate had a girlfriend who i got on with really well and secretly fancied even though we fell out for 3 years. i was at the time going out with her best mate for four years. while i lived away i happened back to my home town she happened to be out so i walked up to her told her how i felt. that was 10 years ago - we have now been married for 8 years and got 2 kids and she\'s still my best friend
 

ScottRadom

Shogun of Saskatchewan
First time I banged my wife she was sorta seeing a real good buddy of mine. Such a good friend that he never told me about the fact he was into Kathy, or that they had been on a couple of dates. Got real awkward on the ride back home to Edmonton at the time (5 hours) and even more awkward as I got him a job, and I was his boss. Even more awkward as we were roomies and he took it real bad.

All in all, no matter what anyone says around here you gotta go with your gut and do what you think you can pull off. Can you break up a bi0sexual relationship and be confident that you\'re the man for her? If so... get to rock\'n and roll\'n. If not wait it out. Drop some subtle comments like \"when you\'re done with that chick, lemme know \'cause I got somethig for ya.\" or maybe a better \"I wish we could have met under much more uncomplicated circumstances.\" Y\'know. Stuff like that.

Play it cool. Like Optimus Prime cool, and you\'ll do okay.
 

INFERNO

New member
and..if Your friendship will die after some perturbations in relationship.. think about it as it wasn\'t good as it should be...
 

wiccanpony

Official Freak Bar Witch
:rolleyes: Hells Bells ..... you guys are such passionate creatures

now I’m not your typical gal, but I like it if the man came up and told me how he feels ....... wearing a chest harness and leather pants earns extra karma brownie points

let her know you’re interested and as they say “ the ball is in her court”
 

lizcam

New member
The best long term relationships are the ones where you start out as good friends. Love is all well and good but no matter how much you love your mate there are times you absolutly hate them too. It\'s momentary but if your relationship is only based on \"love\" then it makes you doubt the validity of the relationship. Being friends gets you over those times.

What I\'m saying is go for it. It\'s worth the risk.
 

lizcam

New member
Originally posted by Spacemunkie
Originally posted by ScottRadom
First time I banged my wife...

You old smoothie... :D

Hadn\'t looked at who was posting but as soon as I saw that I knew just who was talking. Good ol\' Scott. Such class.
 

Mourner

New member
Thanks for all the advice guys (and Gal(s)).

It looks pretty unanimous......
guess i\'ll just have to go for it.

i\'ll see her tonight, and will (probably) ride with her home (i\'m not one to let a couple of girls ride 15 km all by themselves at 3 am) so i\'ll be having a goot chat with her tonight....

Thanks for the replies, and for not letting me down.
 

Dragonsreach

Super Moderator
Staff member
I\'d say go for it, tell her that you find her interesting and attractive.
See what happens.



And good luck, I hope it works out and She \"IS THE ONE\".





Yeah I\'m an old romantic, so what.
 
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