I\'m sorry but it\'s rant time again...

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NerdyOgre254

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Basically my problem is this:
I am part of an initiative run by our local library to bring roleplaying to the people of our town. unfortunately, the problem i have is with one of the people that is also part of the group, hereafter named F. F, for reasons unknown, has decided to take shots at me pretty much anytime he can.
The problem, however, extends much further than that. it hits home, and it hits home HARD.
I have a girlfriend. i consider this to be the greatest thing that has ever happened to me.

Unfortunately...

my girlfriend was introduced to roleplaying by F, and roleplaying has been one of the things that has held us together. it is something that we can do together, and she likes doing it.
the problem is that I can\'t do a single thing without her referring to the way F does it.

So i need help. can people give me suggestions on what to do (because i know if i go with what i\'m thinking then i will end up in a worse position than before)?
 
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Evil Dave

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When she says something like \" Well, F does it this way.\"
Look her right in the eye, and say. \"I\'m not F.\"

Then explain to her that you do not like F and you do not like being compared to him.
Communication is the key to relationships.
 
lizcam

lizcam

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I agree with Dave. Women talk to solve problems. If you\'re willing to talk to her about it without blowing up at her it will be the best thing you\'ve ever done.
 
COG

COG

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muuuuwhahahah
KILL HIM :twisted:
then tell your GF well heck i didnt like the guy.
ok ok dont kill him. thats a bad idea.
i agree with above statements tell her how you feel and if its meant to be she\'ll torture you by one day marrying you. ...... umm yeah thats a good thing too.:evil:
oh and maybe try a different roleplaying game with just her and you can both learn together BY YOURSELVES (without the little F er around):D
 
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Yetie

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I like COG\'s idea of expanding what you now and do together outside of what F has introduced her to. Also the talking point is very true, if you go all cave man on his ass and then turn round and explain why to you GF you\'l end up looking like a 2 yr old throwing his toys out of the pram. Just stay cool sit her down and tlak to her about it. Chin up good sir and congrats on geting said GF in first place mate :D
 
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Torn blue sky

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A number of things.

1. Define \"taking shots\". If F is being abusive without any due reason, it\'s bullying...Don\'t stand for it. Ask F what the dealio is.
2. I argee talking to your g/f about the whole deal is a very good idea. I talk to my g/f a lot, we\'re fine and dandy-o because of it.
3. If you work through steps 1 + 2, I don\'t think it would be as complicated to put F on his ass if he didn\'t let up. They would both know why and with what reason.
Not to say this should be the ultimate goal lol :twisted:

Hope it works out for ya :beer:
 
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Modderrhu

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Does she insist on doing things F\'s way? In that case, I believe you\'ve got bigger worries in your relationship. She needs to respect you before she respects F.

But, if these are random comments, the it sounds to me as though she\'s just recognising that the ways that you two do things are different. It seems as though she\'s trying not to appear silly because of the differences. And in order to do that, she\'s passing the buck.

Some gentle communication is the key.
 
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NerdyOgre254

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Well i see most people picked up on why i used F as an identifier, although i used a whole lot more words.

my GF doesn\'t really want to talk about it but i\'m going to have to otherwise i\'ll go :cussing: and insane.

i\'m going to have to confront F about it, because it\'s been going on for about 2 years now. I don\'t know why i\'ve ignored it for this long, but i\'m p!ssed now.
 
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Yetie

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2 years, ok I think I may have gone a bit postal on him by now. I thught this was a new thing. You need to sit the GF down and talk to her and let her now how pissed you are about F, then F needs to find out what its like to need a bag of cold peas stuck to his head. But make sure you spell it out to you GF that F is doing more than just anoying you.

I do not condon or incourage violence in any way lol
 
Infidel Castro

Infidel Castro

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Originally posted by Torn blue sky
A number of things.

1. Define \"taking shots\". If F is being abusive without any due reason, it\'s bullying...Don\'t stand for it. Ask F what the dealio is.
2. I argee talking to your g/f about the whole deal is a very good idea. I talk to my g/f a lot, we\'re fine and dandy-o because of it.
3. If you work through steps 1 + 2, I don\'t think it would be as complicated to put F on his ass if he didn\'t let up. They would both know why and with what reason.
Not to say this should be the ultimate goal lol :twisted:

Hope it works out for ya :beer:
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You\'ve got to squeeze some violence in there haven\'t you? Savage b\'stard lol

To nerdyogre I say: make sure you\'re not acting through sheer jealousy. It\'s a nasty thing is jealousy, so make sure you\'re convinced you\'re not over-egging the pud. If you can truly say you\'re not reading too much into things, make the lass a cup of tea and explain your feelings. If she\'s worth her salt, you\'ll be absolutely fine. If she\'s not, you may want to consider your compatibility.
 
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Torn blue sky

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You missed out the bit about bloody Carnage Rev. lol

Otherwise sound advise. They don\'t call him the Reverend for nothing you know ;)

I think the fact you\'ve been putting up with it for 2 years, then having your g/f unwittingly bring him up unknowingly would be a bit of a catylist there.

In short, don\'t blame the g/f for anything if she had no idea. And you really need to stick up for yourself, try and minimalise damage though (generally speaking).

Maybe a tad hypocritical, I would have destroyed him by now lol But it\'s too late for me lad! I\'m an old dog now. A lesson learned from others anguish is still a lesson learned ;)
 
freakinacage

freakinacage

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i have no advise other than what has already been offered. still good luck with it. communication is the key. if that doesn\'t work, have him killed :D
 
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Modderrhu

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Originally posted by reverend
If you can truly say you\'re not reading too much into things, make the lass a cup of tea and explain your feelings. If she\'s worth her salt, you\'ll be absolutely fine. If she\'s not, you may want to consider your compatibility.
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I\'ll concur with Torn Blue Sky. Thanks, rev, I needed this for a personal situation.
 
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frenchkid

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use him as a throwing dart target around the house, that ougth to calme your nerve, and send a clear message to the GF :twisted:


Ok maybe advice given before is sounder.... In any case, good luck with it.
 
Infidel Castro

Infidel Castro

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Originally posted by Modderrhu
Originally posted by reverend
If you can truly say you\'re not reading too much into things, make the lass a cup of tea and explain your feelings. If she\'s worth her salt, you\'ll be absolutely fine. If she\'s not, you may want to consider your compatibility.
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I\'ll concur with Torn Blue Sky. Thanks, rev, I needed this for a personal situation.
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My rates are very unreasonable :D
 
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