OMG what a bomb shell

perils of family law

Originally posted by War Griffon
Thanks Jeff, I knew about him as I had been paying maintenance for 19 years of his life but everytime his mother took me to court she always had a tantrum and said he didn\'t want to see me or have anything to do with me. Now I find out he has been trying to find me for nearly three years.

...speaking from the vantage point of having been a family law attorney for more than 20 years ....this is sadly often the case. You would be amazed at the shameful things parents do (to their kids) in order to try get whatever petty revenge against the other parent they think is more important than anything.

Congratulations. Having been found by your son is the first step of a much longer journey: establishing a life long relationship. Don\'t dwell on the childhood years lost--you\'ll never get those back. Today is the first day of the rest of your lives.

:)
 

lizcam

New member
This puts me in mind of Jesterz and how happy he was when he finally saw his girls for the first time in years. Congrats and I\'m so pleased for you! :flip::flip::flip:

Just think! You get to know him as an adult with out having to deal with the diapers and all that. To be able to learn who he is on the inside will be wonderful. Good luck and keep us posted please!
 
Originally posted by Dragon Forge Design
..... At least in the states they are supposed to have visitation rights that are court ordered but their ex\'s do everything they can do disobey them. .... .

That\'s an understatement.

My practice includes cases involving the UCCJEA (Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act) and the Hague Convention. While those acts/law may not ring a bell, the problem they were enacted to address is more commonly known as \"parental kidnapping\". In the US, we formerly had the PKPA (Parental Kidnapping and Prevention Act), which was later replaced by the more effective and comprehensive UCCJEA--which has been adopted by all 50 of the US states. Internationally, many forward thinking countries of the world are signers and participants to the Hague Convention which deals with international parental kidnappings.

I\'ve chased parents and tracked down kids around numerous of the States and the globe (cases in Europe and Asia), set up \"stings\" and worked with the respective local law enforcement to re-acquire custody of kids taken by one parent in order to make the child unavailable to the other parent.

When you say that people will do ***everything*** in their power to violate the law, the rights of the other parent, and the interests and emotional welfare of their own child about whom they supposedly care, ....you are not kidding. They will, and do, go to any lengths.

From the trenches,
Kathryn
 

airhead

Coffin Dodger / Keymaster
Martin, that sounds amazing. I pray that your relationship with your son deepens and grows.

God bless,
Kevin
 

fieldarchy

New member
well man, I\'m glad for you then. Glad to know more about how he found you.

Definitely enjoy your time with him! It is a cool experience and unless you\'ve been in a very similar situation it\'s so hard to understand the flood of emotions.
 

MPJ

New member
Congratulations!

Now, I don\'t know which emotion is stronger in me...

Happiness for you or...

Fear due to the fact that I just did the math and it is theoretically possible for a 21 year old to show up at my house and claim to be my child. :drunk:
 

airhead

Coffin Dodger / Keymaster
Originally posted by MPJ
Congratulations!

Now, I don\'t know which emotion is stronger in me...

Happiness for you or...

Fear due to the fact that I just did the math and it is theoretically possible for a 21 year old to show up at my house and claim to be my child. :drunk:

There but by the gace of God, go I (so I shall not be calling the pot black.)
 

Dragonsreach

Super Moderator
Staff member
Originally posted by MPJ
........ I just did the math and it is theoretically possible for a 21 year old to show up at my house and claim to be my child. :drunk:
Think how I feel, theoretically it could be 36 year old for me. :eek: lol
 

lizcam

New member
Originally posted by Dragonsreach
Originally posted by MPJ
........ I just did the math and it is theoretically possible for a 21 year old to show up at my house and claim to be my child. :drunk:
Think how I feel, theoretically it could be 36 year old for me. :eek: lol

I\'m pretty close to that too, Mike. Say I was a really bad girl and had a kid @ 15 mine could be 33.

Any of you 33 year olds want to claim to be my kid? I make a great (if unconventional) Mom. :innocent:;)
 

Roger Bunting

New member
No, no, no, I don\'t want to calim to be your kid, Liz. That would be just too Freudian. I mean, flirting with my mum? <shudder>

EDIT: Mind you, I\'m 34 so I\'m safely (just) not your son.
 
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