Originally posted by Evil Dave
Originally posted by torifile
When it comes down to a choice of sending someone out in the rain to smoke, or the asthmatic next to them being rushed to the hospital because they can\'t breath
I was gonna quit this topic but...
Now why would a severe asthmatic go to a place where he knows there will be smoking? Why would anyone who doesn\'t like smoke?
If I were allergic to sunlight...going out at noon would be pretty uncomfortable, if not fatal, therefore I would not do it.
If i was diabetic and could not eat sugar,
I would not.
Is this unfair for these types of people...to be responsible for what they eat, where they go? They deal with it.
Take responsibility for your own health do not blame us if you know the consequences but do it anyway.
Just as we must asume responsibity for our choices so must you.
Why did they not make non smoking bars...because the assumption by a militant few that it was ok...and you know what they say about assumption...
it makes an ass outa u and mption.
Well, I wasn\'t gonna enter the fray, but what the heck, the day is young...
I am not a smoker. I am fat. I do believe in choices in your life and you gotta do what you feel is right for you. The smoking issue is one I deal with on a weekly basis and some days it\'s heartwrenching.
I do not blame all smokers, and I know quite a few who are polite and really nice people and my friends. Outside of smoking, the main smokers in my life are nice people. But smoking...
They are my inlaws...mom and sister in law both smoke heavily. As a mom, I had to negotiate harshly with them when I was pregnant, when my little one was a baby, and now I hear that they won\'t play with my daughter unless they can smoke. It makes me cry most days to think about it. We visit them often as they live near by...and the smell lingers on our clothes and coats for days, so that we have a system in place where the clothes get put in a garbage bag when we get home and the coats have to be \"febreezed\" before hanging up or the whole closet soon smells of cigs. I\'m asked to help fix dinner and they smoke, we get dessert and they smoke, we go out to eat and they smoke. Doesn\'t matter what my doc bills are for sinus trouble, the risks to my daughter or my husband...they even smoked in my parents house without asking when they came to plan my wedding. They tried smoking in my apartment when they helped me move and got mad when I told them to go out on the balcony and close the door.
The deal is, that I love them. I hate every time I have to tell them no, we won\'t be coming over and no, they won\'t see us at the cottage for the weekend. I\'d love to spend more time with them, I\'d love to help out more in the kitchen...
What do you want me to do? Sit back and say that they shouldn\'t ban smoking in public places? I wish there were more places we could all go together to and enjoy freely, rather than ruin them for me by their smoking. That is selfish, I admit. It is the way I feel.
Basically, it\'s up to me, to make my choice, so, what\'s my choices here? My only choices are to never see them, take away their access to my daughter and not have to deal with my sinuses and watery eyes and the smell...or to live with the problems it causes us both in my health and my daughter\'s so she can know and love her relatives. Both ways is heartrending and so I cry about it and wish they didn\'t smoke. They don\'t have to deal with the consequences of their habit on us. They are resentful and defensive whenever I suggest their smoking is causing a problem. I\'m told that smoking isn\'t that bad.
I have gotten better at saying no, they no longer visit our home because they cannot smoke, and I can ignore them or walk away when they light up in front of me...but my daughter is too young to be able to do the same.
So, that is my angst, the anguished core of my support for banning smoking in as many places as possible. You asked why would someone do what they know is bad? Love. Family. Why smoke if it\'s bad? Why do I eat if it\'s bad for my weight? They don\'t mean to hurt us, but they can\'t stop.
Everyone deals with it in some way...I just wish we didn\'t have to, like I wish we didn\'t have to deal with violence or illegal drugs or poverty.
