Is money important?
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noneedforaname
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not something to argue about, you either have it or you don\'t it\'s only once to spend. Yes having bucket loads can be good as it allows you to do many things but thats not the right reason to be in a relationship, your with that person because of who they are not what they have.
Friar
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The only issue money related thats worth straining a relationship or breakin up is if one person is either too lazy to bother earning some or if one person is spendin way outside the couples means resulting in the necesities not gettin covered. Other then that it\'s more just a matter of adjusting ones lifestyle to fit their means.
airhead
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Having been at both ends of the spectrum, I can say that money is not the end all. I\'ve been around lots of happy people in places that the whole village combined made less than I do now.
It also seems that no matter how much I make, our expenses seem to magiclly increase to match. So I\'ve pretty much given up on getting ahead, just treading water.
It also seems that no matter how much I make, our expenses seem to magiclly increase to match. So I\'ve pretty much given up on getting ahead, just treading water.
Amazon warrior
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Money may not be able to buy happiness, but it might let you rent it for a while! 
I find it to be pretty useful stuff, but only as a means to an end. Just having it sitting there in a pile probably wounldn\'t thrill me overly, and I\'d probably end up giving it away. I always said that if I won the lottery, I\'d probably use it to make sure my mum and sister were confortable first.
I find it to be pretty useful stuff, but only as a means to an end. Just having it sitting there in a pile probably wounldn\'t thrill me overly, and I\'d probably end up giving it away. I always said that if I won the lottery, I\'d probably use it to make sure my mum and sister were confortable first.
Friar
Dorks for Orks
Aye money is important but not more so then a relationship, so yeah thats basically what I was tryin to say is money isn\'t worth arguing about but the amount of responsibility and maturity your partner has with it may very well be. lol not sure if that statement was any clearer lol but ya all get my point hopefully
Dragon Forge Design
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as Im not surrently in a relationship I can\'t really answer..
In general, yes money is very important for me at the moment..Ive have bills that need paying and things to do.. can\'t do either with an empty bank account..
In general, yes money is very important for me at the moment..Ive have bills that need paying and things to do.. can\'t do either with an empty bank account..
Infidel Castro
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He who has money has power. The power to do good
Infidel Castro
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And unspeakable evil
freakinacage
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money isn\'t the be all and end all but it is important. obviously more important if you don\'t have it!
Infidel Castro
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Classic Homer.
Torn blue sky
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Iv\'e never been remotely materialistic, money isn\'t a real issue to me. I make enough to do what I need to do, thats it.
Happiness is what you find in your significant other, not in a vault somewhere.
Happiness is what you find in your significant other, not in a vault somewhere.
Having recently pulled ourselves out from under a mountain of debt...I can say we\'ve been very stupid with money before, and it wasn\'t easy to get on top of things. I\'m mainly in charge of keeping track of the pocketbook, but hubby usually has a general idea of where we\'re standing. If he wants something small, he gets it and tells me later, so I can write it down. If he wants something that isn\'t small, then he usually calls first. No biggie, no arguments. We just keep the bills paid and the kids fed, and that\'s the most important thing.
I don\'t think money\'s much of an issue in relationships, as long as no one is being incredibly irresponsible with it. You pay your bills and hopefully have enough left over to have some fun and put the rest away for savings/retirement goodness. If money\'s tight, then pay the bills, put food on the table and try not to worry about the rest for the time being
Right now I work summers and go to university, so the savings thing isn\'t really an option, but 9 months out of the year I\'m in good financial shape. The last little bit before income tax refunds is a bitch... right now I have a couple hundred bucks to last me until I get my refund check of approximately $3,000
Right now I work summers and go to university, so the savings thing isn\'t really an option, but 9 months out of the year I\'m in good financial shape. The last little bit before income tax refunds is a bitch... right now I have a couple hundred bucks to last me until I get my refund check of approximately $3,000
fieldarchy
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For the overall question, yes money is important. Whether or not it will break up a relationship depends.
I will say though that if you don\'t have a steady, decent source of income then I will not even think about dating you. Had too many bad experiences with it so it is a requirement that I date guys who have jobs or are self employed and can manage to pay their bills.
Also, if i know you have bill collectors after you . . . yeah that will be the end of that. Unless you have unusually hard circumstances and it can\'t be avoided (like insurance not covering a $350k surgery or something) staying on top of bills is not that difficult and it is very important. I make sure to pay my bills on time, I\'ve never defaulted or had one single collections call.
I will say though that if you don\'t have a steady, decent source of income then I will not even think about dating you. Had too many bad experiences with it so it is a requirement that I date guys who have jobs or are self employed and can manage to pay their bills.
Also, if i know you have bill collectors after you . . . yeah that will be the end of that. Unless you have unusually hard circumstances and it can\'t be avoided (like insurance not covering a $350k surgery or something) staying on top of bills is not that difficult and it is very important. I make sure to pay my bills on time, I\'ve never defaulted or had one single collections call.
